On gender bias

My world was flipped upside down this week.  Maybe that's a little over the top, but I am pretty angry about this.  I haven't really seen myself as a feminist, (certainly not in an extreme bra burning way) but I do hold hopes for equality.  In fact I thought that we were actually doing really quite well in that area as I never felt terribly discriminated against based on being female.  I have never been an "activist" shouting from the rooftops how 'man' has suppressed me.  Then again there are a few little things - the first shared bank account with my now hubby I insisted that they changed they account title with my name first - I was disappointed that it is immediately the mans name that goes first.

That was around 15 years ago.  It seems that this type of discrimination is still rife.  I made a request to a private school for enrolment information with an online form.  My name at the top of the form (as is correct seeing I was the one filling out the form).  I put my hubby's name on form when requested - he after all is a part of all this.  No problem there.  Until I received the information pack.  Addressed to us both (no problem there) with hubby's initial first.  Uh oh.  Problem.  Not okay - in my opinion as I was the one to fill out the form I should have prime status on the address line.  Yes, it kind of is a small issue, but it bugs me all the same.  Anyway, I open the pack, and to my disbelief I am not mentioned at all....It is addressed only to hubby.  Wait, what? 

 I am so disappointed.  It may seem that I am making a big issue and getting angry over a minor thing, and certainly responses to my Facebook post on this issue reflects that.  My issue is if our very language in the male/female arena is flawed, if this is how we are teaching our boys to refer to women, our girls to believe they are inferior then the battle still has so far to go.