Monday, 5 May 2014

Friends have special privileges

Now don't get carried away- not those privileges! I'm talking of the special rights that comes with friendship. Friends get to say things that would be inappropriate or not okay for most people to say. They get to tell you when to pull your head in without reprimand, to tell you your dress looks hideous or you didn't blend your foundation that's probably the wrong shade anyway. In return you can tell them they overstepped the line with that comment, and laugh and cry on their shoulders when the need arises.  Friendship is a special place.

I don't think I am always good at friendships- sometimes I am not sure what kind of friends we are, not sure whether I can call us close friends or whether it should be just acquaintances, and as a result I tend to stand back and wait for the other person to make the moves. 

Friendships are very much like romantic relationships, without all the romantic bits. You meet with someone, and sometimes it's bam! A connection. Or it could be a slow getting to know you. However it works a friendship is a thing that develops and changes over time, hopefully for the better. Like relationships though, sometimes things don't always work out, sometimes you 'break up'. 

 I went through a stage a couple of years ago where I had break ups with friends. It just wasn't working anymore, (it's not you it's me? Vice versa?) and we broke up. One was an explosive breakup. One just a fade out, but in the end those relationships had run their course.

I have some amazing friends to be grateful for though.  Some have been in my life for many many years. Those friends that are like old slippers. We may go long periods without seeing each other, or have times where we see each other everyday, but it is never hard work.  Some are new, our relationships still solidifying, but I can see they are going to be in my life for a long time, because they tick the boxes.

And they have the privileges of above, but mostly I think I have the best part- I have the privilege of have some amazing strong women (and some men) as friends.
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  1. Annabelle Cannon5 May 2014 at 17:50

    I love this. I understand what you mean about friends you can go long periods without seeing and it's never hard work.
    My best friend recently moved to Perth for study and in five months I have only seen her once.
    But when we did meet up it was as if we had just saw each other yesterday.

    I can also relate to the disappearance of slippers. Especially in this weather.

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    1. The Overthinker5 May 2014 at 18:20

      Thanks Annabelle - try not to lose touch with your slippers too much ;)

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  2. Unknown11 May 2014 at 05:45

    The best friends are the ones who tell you that your foundation is not blended properly, and then fix it for you, and if they cant even tell you that you have lipstick on you teeth...well.....then that is a friendship I can call "work colleague". The friendships I treasure most are the ones that you can pick up where you left off after long times apart due to busy work/uni/family/other reasons, and your friend understands.
    I agree with you in regards to standing back and waiting to see what happens at the beginning of a friendship...kind of like a potential boyfriend...."ooh should I call...will he call me?...is it weird...?" just send a text message, its totally less scary. And lets be honest here, this is a modern era we're in, because we are talking about it on a blog!

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